When people have unrealistic expectations, a vicious cycle controls their lives. It works like this:
Something must be wrong with me - I need to change and then I'll be happy (unrealistic expectation) - I've tried to change, but something is still wrong - it must be somebody else's fault (blame) - no, it is my fault (guilt) - I don't know whose fault it is (fear) - something is terribly wrong with me (confusion) - I'll follow that guru or religion (desperation) - something is still wrong, I'd better change ... (gullibility) - and the spiral goes on and on.
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